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Sunday, July 31, 2011

"I'M JUST SAYING!!!2"

My hubby played Keith Sweat today on the way back from Atlanta. Now I guess you are probably saying to yourself “So what!!!” Well for me it’s a personal connection from my past with my hubby. We use to listen to him all the time when we first got together. LOL, when I was listening and watching him, while he was driving, it just brought all those old feelings and heart flutters, I use to get every time I seen his handsome face walk through the door while we were dating. Please don’t get it twisted, I still get sparks when I see him now, but it is something about the sparks you get when you first date someone. I guess what I am trying to say is if you need a relationship boost or need to just feel a spark, bring back something, from the past when you two first got together. Sounds and smells are good memory stimulators and sometimes stimulators need to be used, to help keep the magic alive. I’m just saying!!!!

Update!!!!

Hey everyone, I am so sorry I am behind on blog post. I have been in Atlanta and I am just getting back. I will have chapter 6 posted by tomorrow. My plan was to post tonight, but I am wore out, so please forgive me. I will try to get  regular post posted also in this next couple of days. As always much love....MzGaPeachy

Friday, July 22, 2011

Major Dating Turnoffs

We have all had it happen! Taking a sip thru your straw staring back this person like, “How in the world do I get out of here!!” Noticing a turnoff during a date can be very awkward and uncomfortable. Some of you may keep a mental note of it or you could be the type that politely points out what you’re not comfortable with (that’s me). During a recent poll on the blog, you were asked, “What is a major turnoff on a first date?” Most of you agree that a person (guy or girl) who may be rude to other people (ex: waiter, movie attendant, etc.) may be the biggest turnoff during a date. And this is true. Being offensive to others shows a lot about one’s character. Be especially wary of those who are rude to people perceived to be in subordinate roles. No matter how sweet an individual may seem at the moment, take the time to observe how they treat others around you. Not only will it show in the future but it shows how one is able to collaborate with others. Meaning communication between you and that person may be very difficult if they find themselves constantly in a higher power. (Check out Communication is Key!! Post by Mrs.C)

MY BEST DATING TIP

*** Your value system and ethics need to be constant at all times regardless of who you are dealing with. ***

Dating  *Blank Stare* Gives me the shakes thinking about it. We have lost touch the meaning of dating- getting to know one another- courting.  Ladies, we have to do better. We have so many complaints about our men but if we required more, we’d simply get more. We have set this stigma to our good men, repetitively saying how far and few they come. So we settle for these selfish and irresponsible people, making it up in our mind, “Well, this is as good as it gets.”  Better yourselves ladies. I believe you attract whatever energy you give off.  If you always find yourself in a bad relationship or dating experience; reevaluate yourself. Your standards.  We all have to learn, but if you’ve had a bad involvement, this shouldn’t continuously happen. Knowing yourself can lead to better dates and better men. I’m learning to0, but being single in the dating world—I’ve seen it all!!  Trust me—I have a lot more to come. We are in this journey together-  BlessJ

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 Single and Hopeful,

Angel Davenport <3

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Emotions All Under Control


Mrs. C
Psychologically emotions can be broken down in several categories and we may process and deal with emotions and feelings differently. Emotional expression toward the other can affect our relationships being positive and healthy or negative and unhealthy. Emotions can sometimes be hard to detect. What emotions are you feeling, whether it is regarding self or in a relationship this could be quite uncomfortable in dealing with negative emotions and reactions if others. Another question you can ask is my relationship healthy or unhealthy?

Healthy relationship usually offers emotional stability. It is also rewarding and refreshing leaving both individuals to feel whole. You see growth , feel a sense of accomplishment, freedom, and self worth.

Unhealthy relationships can sometimes lead to negative emotions, abuse, opinions, lack of respect and criticism. Look, guys you can never compromise in an uncompromising situation. Don’t argue, and lose yourself. First, analyze yourself and in analyzing yourself be honest. Take that mirror and microscope and look deep inside. Second, depending on the severity of the situation establish a realistic plan that works in handling the things that make the relationship unhealthy. Third, make sure that you have a positive support system or unit whether it spiritual counselors, professional counselors, or advisors.

“Let me break it down and just put it out there” we all want to be in a relationship and sometimes we may hook up with the wrong individual and later within the relationship, due to the cycle experiences we learn there are certain things we did not know about the other. There may be habits the other person has that goes all over you and we just cannot see pass them. In your marriage you remember for better or for worst. In a dating game you might just say, “The Heck with This.” Regardless we all have to be respectful, trustworthy, and be good stewards in relating to others. No one is perfect and the lives we lead are not perfect. “Step over that pair of pants he left in the middle of the floor do not be so quick to complain. Because believe me women there are things that we do he looks over. If you cannot get over the negative feeling seek positive solutions for all parties involved. On a healthy note when two people can come together and communicate, respect, and trust one another they can move mountains. It is not going to be peaches and cream all the time but, in a healthy relationship the couple works hard together to come to a solution.

In experiencing certain situation and emotions we have to be our own cheerleaders. Don’t be so quick to point the finger and speculate concerning others because when you react hastily you stand a chance of being wrong, and may possibly result in a negative and unhealthy outcome. Just relaxed don’t worry and remain calm find ways to channel your energy in a positive manner.

Sincerely,

Mrs. C.

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye. Psalm 32:8

"What You See is What You Get"

MzGaPeachy
I am dropping this post for those of you who are about to get married, and those of you who have recently gotten married (trying to figure out what is going on). This tidbit of information should not apply to those of you who have been married for a while. I would hope that at this point, in your marriage, that you have learned at least this much, by now. However, if you have been married for a while and still have not learned this please pay close attention, along with the engaged couples and the newlyweds.

Many times people, some ladies and men alike, have this notion that when they get married they are going to be able to change a person. Now I know those of you that have already realized this concept, are thinking to yourselves, isn’t that just common sense. Well, more often than not people fail to realize this fact. They have it in their mind that once they get married that they can make that person into the person you want them to be. I am here to tell you that if you do not let that mindset go you will be in a world of disappointment.

I cannot emphasize this point enough, what you see is what you get. What they have displayed about themselves, before marriage are who they really are.  Trust me when I say just like you have no intention of changing your ways, they have no intention to changing theirs.

But wait; there is hope for them to change. However, it won’t be because you changed them, it will be because they wanted too, and God did it. But now that you know they can change asked yourself do you really want to take that chance waiting on them to change. I said there was hope, but I didn’t say it was a guarantee, so you have to make that a personal decision, whether or not you want to chance it or run.

All I am saying is think about it wisely and don’t go into marriage with false hopes and expectations, about trying to change someone. Just something to think about!!!!

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

"I’M JUST SAYING!”

This is not the post I promised. Don’t worry, I still will be posting it later, but this is something I felt I really needed to get off my chest. Nothing hurts me more than to see others, whether it is a woman or a man, looking for someone to make them happy. Please don’t misconstrue this. I am not saying that you shouldn’t be with someone that makes you happy. By all means be with someone who makes you happy, because no one wants to be with somebody that is going to make them miserable. What I am saying is don’t search for a relationship to define your happiness. You must learn to be happy with yourself first!!!  If you’re not happy with yourself, no one else is going to make you happy. I will put a more in depth post on this later, but I just wanted give those of you who maybe searching for someone, to JUST define your happiness, something to think about. Going into a relationship for that reason alone is not fair to you or the other person. It is to the upmost importance that we get ourselves together first, and ask God to help us learn about our self and appreciate our self. “I’M JUST SAYING!”

A Thank You to Mrs. C and an Update!!!

I would like to thank Mrs. C for that wonderful post that you gave us yesterday. I can't wait until tomorrow when she stops by again. Tonight I will be bringing you a post called "What You See is What You Get."You should stop by and check it out. Plus once again don't forget about our special guest blogger who will be sharing with us Friday. Everyone enjoy Hump Day and I will get back to you later.

As Always Much Love,

MzGaPeachy

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

"Balancing Act"

Mrs. C
Today many times we find ourselves on overkill or overload. Women we take on many tasks in providing for the needs of our husband and family, not to mention our own personal needs. Men you work, work, and work hard in providing for your family, growing tired in the process. You both need to STOP, don’t lose yourselves outside of home it is very essential to balance work, home, and personal life to prevent losing yourselves and what you are working for together. Because you are on overkill, or overload it sometimes makes it very difficult to deal with certain situations that may come about in the relationship. “STOP” right where you are, sit down and just breathe. Pray and ask God to help you, because he is right there waiting. Conduct a family meeting to talk and establish some ground rules, allowing everyone to share. Remember to remain open for suggestions. You and your mate are one, and to make things balance and flow smoothly it will take everyone, including the children taking on tasks and instructions.

Now, as a couple set aside that time, for the two of you. If you do not see the time, make some time for the other. Dig deep and think of the good that attracted you to one another. “DATE” whether it may be in the bedroom, the movies or out for dinner alone, as long as it is away from overkill and stress. The best release is to engage in a spontaneous evening of romance and sex. Sex is the best way to de-stress your mind and body suggested by doctors and professionals, as well as it honoring your union as one.

Superwoman you cannot do it on your own. Let your Superman help you! Remember to show gratitude and kindness, while loving one another alone the way. Superman take charge, be loving, and affectionate sweep her off her feet! If you cannot see eye to eye, leave self out of it.  If this does not work, STOP, Pray, Press, and Stand Strong relying on Gods words. His word is your blueprint and instructions. Don’t groan or complain find a scripture and meditate on it. Plant the word into your spirit praying for balance and peace.

Eph 5:31 And the two shall become one.

Updates to Checkout!!!

Hello Readers,

I am posting to give you all some insight on all of the things Da Real Talk has going on this week. First, let me mention that Mrs. C will be back tonight dropping a post called the Balancing Act. I must say that it is a must read piece. She will also be back on Thursday dropping a piece on emotions that you all should get ready for. We have another guest blogger that will be who I am looking forward to hearing from, coming up on Friday. She is going to be a real treat. Well as to what expect from your girl MzGaPeachy, all I can say is be prepared. I am not going to give specfic dates, because as for me I throw it out there, when God gives it to me. Don't worry though, for those who are waiting for Chapter 5 of "The Love Cray-zee Chronicles." I already have it written, I am just waiting to decide when I am going to spring it on you. The official launch date for "Da Real Talk" website will be August 15, 2011. We will have a lot of exciting things going on that day, that you do not want to miss out on, so stay tuned. Well until than,

As Always Much Love,

MzGaPeachy

Monday, July 18, 2011

"Every Woman is Special"

MzGaPeachy

Every woman is special and should know her own self worth. A woman should never compromise her integrity, her love for herself, or anything about herself that God has given her, that makes her unique. She is a an amazing being, with unlimited potential. She has the capability of completing several of life task, simultaneously, without one compliant. She can be very strong willed and can have the strength of a lioness,when needed. At the same time she can be very gentle, meek, and mild. She has beauty glowing all about, even if at times she doesn't see it. I guess what I am saying is be careful with who you let have your heart, but at the same time don't lock it to tight. You don't want your heart locked so tight that when you run into Mr. Right you scare him away.

Saturday, July 16, 2011

Surprise, Surprise!!!!

Hi Readers,

I know stated earlier during the week that Chapter 3 & 4 of "The Love Cray-zee Chronicles" would be dropping Sunday, but I decided to do it @ 8:00 pm EST tonight. So stay tuned, because in less then 2 hours they both will be dropping. I know a lot of you have been telling me you had been waiting.

As Always Much Love,
MzGaPeachy

"Take it Outside the Bedroom"

Okay Readers,
My thought for today is take it outside the bedroom. A lot of times, especially after marriage we noticed that our sex life becomes like a game of chess. We seem to reach stalemate. It usually has nothing to do with the lack of love in the relationship, in most case (there are some though). The problem is most couples become consumed by everyday life such as work, kids, bills etc. Many times they don’t mean to intentionally let the flames of passion burnout, most just become exhausted from everything else. So how can you rekindle the flames you ask? My answer to you is take it outside the bedroom. 
It is important for you as a couple to take the passion outside of your normal environment. This helps not to only get you away from your life stressors, but it helps get you out of routine. Routine can lead to boredom for both parties, and that is not healthy, for the relationship overall.
A quick suggestion is to get a room. You don’t have to go out of town to get a room, just go get one. Being outside your bedroom and home can make a world of difference in the sex life. Plus if you can think of other creative ways or places to heat it up, that don’t include your bedroom, utilize it. The goal is just to keep the passion burning.
So if you are one of those people who seem to have reached stalemate, don’t just throw in the game. Strategize trick plays off the board to heat it back up. That way in the end you and your mate both can yell “CHECKMATE.”

Special Thanks To Mrs.C!!!!

I want to give a special thanks to my girl, Mrs. C, for sharing with us last night. I really enjoyed reading your post and cannot wait to hear more. Once again thank you so much for everything!!!!

And As Always Much Love,
MzGaPeachy

Friday, July 15, 2011

Communcation is Key!!!!!!

Mrs. C
Hello Everyone, 

My name is Mrs. C and I was asked by my girl MzGaPeachy to drop the 411 on communcation. I did just that. I pray it will make a difference in someones life, so enjoy the read below!
Sincerely,
Mrs. C


Improving your relationship with your mate can make dramatic changes in a relationship.  Many times in a relationship couples fall into a pattern of putting your feeling and emotions in a box instead of dealing with certain situations and conflicts that may arrive. While dating we find it easy hold hands, hug, and talk things out and be there for one another. Communication is an essential part of a relationship here are some keys that can possibly improve keeping the door of communication open.
1.       Never take for granted that your significant other can read your mind.  If there is something that is on your mind take the time talk. Believe me timing is everything pick the proper time to talk. Ladies don’t wait until the middle of the football game. Men be welling listen and listen attentively to what is important her.  If needed set a time aside to discuss and share this can be a time when you and your mate can cuddle, and romance if there is nothing to discuss.
2.       Be thoughtful not selfish and self centered.  Remember to be mindful of the others feeling not getting caught up in the me, mine, and I syndrome. It takes two to share and we have to remember that it is not fun to be in a relationship alone.
3.        Establish a date night keep love alive do not be afraid to share and explore together.  We all lead busy lives it is easy to lose self and self worth in stuff and the world.  Stop, breath, relax, and touch.  A peck on the cheek or something as simple as a text to say, “I love you,” or “I am thinking of you.” Indicates and express you care and can be quite meaningful. Your date night should be a time to share and enjoy one another all about the two of you nothing or no one else matters during this time. Communicate by showing affection.
Remember within the human live is a cycle and we are constantly changing and so does relationships cycle.  No matter where you are within this cycle remain focus and remain open to the other do not close yourself off allowing yourself to enter into the box.  When two people feel the desire to love and be love the way that God communicates love openly sharing and moving forward becomes an easy.




Thursday, July 14, 2011

Things to Come!!!

Hi Readers,

I am so excited about all the things that the blog has coming up. I will be releasing the spicy blog post from me on Saturday (7-16-11) and Chpt 3 and 4 of "The Love Cray-zee Chronicles" on Sunday (7-17-11). I also am started the guest blogger portion that I will be asking others to particapate in. We also have the launch of the new sight http://www.darealtalk.com/ coming up soon. All I can say is that it is looking awesome. As soon as I have an official launch date I will post it. Last, but not least a contest will be coming up, where someone will win one of the first official items with the new company logo, so stay tune for that also. Until then

As Always Much Love,
MzGaPeachy

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

"Updates You Want To Know"

Hey Readers,

I am excited to bring you chapter 2 of "The Love Cray-zee Chronicles." This portion gives you a little back ground history into our three lead characters. However, the next drop will include  chapters 3&4 where you truly get introduced to my the character Camille, who is a real drama queen when it comes too men. I think everyone will enjoy her character.

Off to the next topic for those of you who have not taking the poll on the left side of the page do so quickly, because there is only a few days left. I have a guest blogger coming in to drop the 411 on that poll and give us her opinion and feedback. In the meantime, I myself am working on a spicy post to drop to you. So stay tuned and stay blessed.

As Always Much Love,

MzGaPeachy

Monday, July 11, 2011

Contact Info

Hi Readers,


I am leaving an email address where I can be reached, becuase I wanted everyone to have access to me. I have been recieving a lot of love from those of you that know how to contact me, but for those of you who don't you can reach me @ relationshipadvice76@yahoo.com. You can use it to leave me comments or leave topics you would like for me to discuss on the blog. I know not everyone feels comfortable leaving remarks in the comment area, so the email is for you. I will try my best to reach out to each of you. Until then may God bless you.

As Always Much Love,

MzGaPeachy

Sunday, July 10, 2011

Exciting News!!!!

Hi Readers,


I am happy to announce that in next month or so the official website will be launched. My domain name, Da Real Talk, has been purchased. Thank you to my hubby, for your encouraging words earlier. Shot out to my brother, Ervin Jr., for making it happen, but most of all I want to thank my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ making it all possible. I am very excited and with your support the site will be successful. I am just praying that it accomplishes, the vision that God has given me for it. In a few years I will have my MFT (Marriage and Family Therapy) license. I hope the site will be a stepping stone toward a successful MFT practice. In the mean time, continue to enjoy the blog and I will try my best to have the second installment of "The Love Cray-zee Chronicles" posted by tomorrow night. If not, I will have it posted no later than Tuesday, 7-12-11. Also stay tuned, for a regular blog post being dropped in the next couple of days.

Until then, much love,


MzGaPeachy

Saturday, July 9, 2011

Just A Thought


I was just sitting here wondering about something. I have a question for all of that have been with your mate a long time. How many of you still do some of the things for your mate you use to do when you first got together? Now for those of you who say that you don’t, do you still have a lot of sparks flying. Dating, courting, romancing, or whatever you want to call it is a very good way to keep the sparks flying or rekindle the flame that may have died out. It can be something as simple as a love letter.  I’m just saying think about. I would love to hear some feedback, before I go into farther details, so let me know what you think.
Loving you Always,
MzGaPeachy
“Don’t forget to stay tune for the first installment of The Love Cray-zee Chronicles.”

Bedroom Attire

This is another repost from my old blog that I thought you might enjoy.

Question...Why when you first start dating a guy you spend a lot of time preparing yourselves before you go to bed. You spend time looking good and smelling good, but as soon as you get married or have been together for a long period of time you start to let yourselves go. You go to bed in the old unattractive nightgowns that even your grandma won't wear, or anything unattractive. You then go and have the nerve to wonder why he peeping out the next chick. Well, what you did to get him you have to do to keep him. If you don't want to invest in all the sexy lingerie, buy some sexy panties and just go to bed in them. I have better idea just don't spend any money and go to bed  naked. Many men will tell you it’s not the wrapping, but the package. Whatever you do, just remember to spend some time looking attractive for your man when you go to bed. I know you can't do it every night if you work or have a family, but remember try to do it as much as possible to keep him wanting to come back to your bed. Give me your feedback and comments on the subject.

Upcoming!!!!!

Hi Readers,

Later tonight will be posting Chapter 1, of The Love Cray-zee Chronicles. I am definitely looking forward to feedback. Totally Excited!!!

As Always Much Love,

MzGaPeachy

Friday, July 8, 2011

"A Lady in Da Streets"

This is a repost from my old blog that, I started before school consumed all of my time. I am back now, and can’t wait to start posting again, but in the meantime enjoy this reading, so you can see what to expect, and I will soon be bringing you the good stuff. Love you all, MzGaPeachy.  
One of the famous quotes of men is "A lady in the street and a freak in the bed." Some women spending a lot of time looking for passion and lovemaking in the bedroom, while some men on the other hand looking for a woman to release her wild side. The question is can there be a happy medium in the bedroom. I believe so. The thing has to do with the comfort level a person carries in the bedroom. Women have been taught so much to act like a lady, a lot of times she feels self-conscience when she steps in the bedroom. She can however move pass feeling self-conscience, with the trust and love of her man. He has to ensure her that he will think no less of her when they step out of the bedroom. The passion that a woman feels during lovemaking can also be felt during wild sex. That is if she knows that her man truly loves her and she truly loves him. True love allows you to be able to look pass the romance novel imagine of love making and allow you to be able to expand your horizons. A lot of time women want passionate lovemaking; because she is looking to secure a feeling of love she is questioning herself about. Guys don't get it twisted either. Once you prove to your woman how much you love her, and she loosens up and starts to having the wild sex with you, make sure that is not all you give her. She still needs the passionate love making sessions added in. That is what allows her to come back and give you the best wild sex of your life. A woman is always more loose when she is feeling loved. Men you have to be willing to look pass your image of that porn star too. Many times you are so much caught up in the image of the porn star sex you forget the passion a relationship needs to survive. Women, a man is kept very happy when he knows he can come home after a long day of work and have some freaky sex. There is no need to try to go elsewhere to find what he is getting from you. Men keep the passion so she doesn't go to the next man to find it. At the end of the day compromise makes everyone happy. So women answer the door for your man in nothing but stilettos and men bring home the flowers so the passionate wild sex can begin.