"I'M JUST SAYING!!!2"

My hubby played Keith Sweat today on the way back from Atlanta. Now I guess you are probably saying to yourself “So what!!!” Well for me it’s a personal connection from my past with my hubby. We use to listen to him all the time when we first got together. LOL, when I was listening and watching him, while he was driving, it just brought all those old feelings and heart flutters, I use to get every time I seen his handsome face walk through the door while we were dating. Please don’t get it twisted, I still get sparks when I see him now, but it is something about the sparks you get when you first date someone. I guess what I am trying to say is if you need a relationship boost or need to just feel a spark, bring back something, from the past when you two first got together. Sounds and smells are good memory stimulators and sometimes stimulators need to be used, to help keep the magic alive. I’m just saying!!!!

Update!!!!

Hey everyone, I am so sorry I am behind on blog post. I have been in Atlanta and I am just getting back. I will have chapter 6 posted by tomorrow. My plan was to post tonight, but I am wore out, so please forgive me. I will try to get  regular post posted also in this next couple of days. As always much love....MzGaPeachy

Major Dating Turnoffs

We have all had it happen! Taking a sip thru your straw staring back this person like, “How in the world do I get out of here!!” Noticing a turnoff during a date can be very awkward and uncomfortable. Some of you may keep a mental note of it or you could be the type that politely points out what you’re not comfortable with (that’s me). During a recent poll on the blog, you were asked, “What is a major turnoff on a first date?” Most of you agree that a person (guy or girl) who may be rude to other people (ex: waiter, movie attendant, etc.) may be the biggest turnoff during a date. And this is true. Being offensive to others shows a lot about one’s character. Be especially wary of those who are rude to people perceived to be in subordinate roles. No matter how sweet an individual may seem at the moment, take the time to observe how they treat others around you. Not only will it show in the future but it shows how one is able to collaborate with others. Meaning communication between you and that person may be very difficult if they find themselves constantly in a higher power. (Check out Communication is Key!! Post by Mrs.C)

MY BEST DATING TIP

*** Your value system and ethics need to be constant at all times regardless of who you are dealing with. ***

Dating  *Blank Stare* Gives me the shakes thinking about it. We have lost touch the meaning of dating- getting to know one another- courting.  Ladies, we have to do better. We have so many complaints about our men but if we required more, we’d simply get more. We have set this stigma to our good men, repetitively saying how far and few they come. So we settle for these selfish and irresponsible people, making it up in our mind, “Well, this is as good as it gets.”  Better yourselves ladies. I believe you attract whatever energy you give off.  If you always find yourself in a bad relationship or dating experience; reevaluate yourself. Your standards.  We all have to learn, but if you’ve had a bad involvement, this shouldn’t continuously happen. Knowing yourself can lead to better dates and better men. I’m learning to0, but being single in the dating world—I’ve seen it all!!  Trust me—I have a lot more to come. We are in this journey together-  BlessJ

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 Single and Hopeful,

Angel Davenport <3

Emotions All Under Control

Mrs. C

Psychologically emotions can be broken down in several categories and we may process and deal with emotions and feelings differently. Emotional expression toward the other can affect our relationships being positive and healthy or negative and unhealthy. Emotions can sometimes be hard to detect. What emotions are you feeling, whether it is regarding self or in a relationship this could be quite uncomfortable in dealing with negative emotions and reactions if others. Another question you can ask is my relationship healthy or unhealthy?

Healthy relationship usually offers emotional stability. It is also rewarding and refreshing leaving both individuals to feel whole. You see growth , feel a sense of accomplishment, freedom, and self worth.

Unhealthy relationships can sometimes lead to negative emotions, abuse, opinions, lack of respect and criticism. Look, guys you can never compromise in an uncompromising situation. Don’t argue, and lose yourself. First, analyze yourself and in analyzing yourself be honest. Take that mirror and microscope and look deep inside. Second, depending on the severity of the situation establish a realistic plan that works in handling the things that make the relationship unhealthy. Third, make sure that you have a positive support system or unit whether it spiritual counselors, professional counselors, or advisors.

“Let me break it down and just put it out there” we all want to be in a relationship and sometimes we may hook up with the wrong individual and later within the relationship, due to the cycle experiences we learn there are certain things we did not know about the other. There may be habits the other person has that goes all over you and we just cannot see pass them. In your marriage you remember for better or for worst. In a dating game you might just say, “The Heck with This.” Regardless we all have to be respectful, trustworthy, and be good stewards in relating to others. No one is perfect and the lives we lead are not perfect. “Step over that pair of pants he left in the middle of the floor do not be so quick to complain. Because believe me women there are things that we do he looks over. If you cannot get over the negative feeling seek positive solutions for all parties involved. On a healthy note when two people can come together and communicate, respect, and trust one another they can move mountains. It is not going to be peaches and cream all the time but, in a healthy relationship the couple works hard together to come to a solution.

In experiencing certain situation and emotions we have to be our own cheerleaders. Don’t be so quick to point the finger and speculate concerning others because when you react hastily you stand a chance of being wrong, and may possibly result in a negative and unhealthy outcome. Just relaxed don’t worry and remain calm find ways to channel your energy in a positive manner.

Sincerely,

Mrs. C.

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye. Psalm 32:8

"What You See is What You Get"

MzGaPeachy

I am dropping this post for those of you who are about to get married, and those of you who have recently gotten married (trying to figure out what is going on). This tidbit of information should not apply to those of you who have been married for a while. I would hope that at this point, in your marriage, that you have learned at least this much, by now. However, if you have been married for a while and still have not learned this please pay close attention, along with the engaged couples and the newlyweds.

Many times people, some ladies and men alike, have this notion that when they get married they are going to be able to change a person. Now I know those of you that have already realized this concept, are thinking to yourselves, isn’t that just common sense. Well, more often than not people fail to realize this fact. They have it in their mind that once they get married that they can make that person into the person you want them to be. I am here to tell you that if you do not let that mindset go you will be in a world of disappointment.

I cannot emphasize this point enough, what you see is what you get. What they have displayed about themselves, before marriage are who they really are.  Trust me when I say just like you have no intention of changing your ways, they have no intention to changing theirs.

But wait; there is hope for them to change. However, it won’t be because you changed them, it will be because they wanted too, and God did it. But now that you know they can change asked yourself do you really want to take that chance waiting on them to change. I said there was hope, but I didn’t say it was a guarantee, so you have to make that a personal decision, whether or not you want to chance it or run.

All I am saying is think about it wisely and don’t go into marriage with false hopes and expectations, about trying to change someone. Just something to think about!!!!

"I’M JUST SAYING!”

This is not the post I promised. Don’t worry, I still will be posting it later, but this is something I felt I really needed to get off my chest. Nothing hurts me more than to see others, whether it is a woman or a man, looking for someone to make them happy. Please don’t misconstrue this. I am not saying that you shouldn’t be with someone that makes you happy. By all means be with someone who makes you happy, because no one wants to be with somebody that is going to make them miserable. What I am saying is don’t search for a relationship to define your happiness. You must learn to be happy with yourself first!!!  If you’re not happy with yourself, no one else is going to make you happy. I will put a more in depth post on this later, but I just wanted give those of you who maybe searching for someone, to JUST define your happiness, something to think about. Going into a relationship for that reason alone is not fair to you or the other person. It is to the upmost importance that we get ourselves together first, and ask God to help us learn about our self and appreciate our self. “I’M JUST SAYING!”

A Thank You to Mrs. C and an Update!!!

I would like to thank Mrs. C for that wonderful post that you gave us yesterday. I can't wait until tomorrow when she stops by again. Tonight I will be bringing you a post called "What You See is What You Get."You should stop by and check it out. Plus once again don't forget about our special guest blogger who will be sharing with us Friday. Everyone enjoy Hump Day and I will get back to you later.

As Always Much Love,

MzGaPeachy